BEAT MY FIVE: TROPICAL HEAT

Maraming bagay ang hindi natin naiintindihan pag dating sa mga bagay na tungkol sa pagibig at relasyon. Now this can be a bit corny although everything naman about love and relationship are "cheesy" in nature. So just enjoy this entry for this week, and If time permits Ill post another entry for this week, na ilang weeks ko nang gustong i post (PURO WEEKS AH hehe). Here you go!

BEAT MY FIVE: TROPICAL HEAT

1. NBSB - Ito ang isa sa mga pinaka corning na invent nga mga katulad nating kabataan (ehem...). I think there is no such thing as NB(G)SP (NO BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND SINCE BIRTH) as in wala talaga. If you'd think about it, it is impossible to have a relationship kung edad mo ay 2 years old. DIBA?? Kaya ka lalo na ddipress eh dahil iniisip mo simula ng pag ka panganak mo wala ka ng boyfriend/girlfriend, eh ni hindi naman talaga possible yun.The right time to be in a relationship is around 16 or 17 years old. Ito yung mga junior or senior years mo in HS. So if you'd count those years at 20 ka ngayon or a bit older. PLEASE wag kang madrama, technically your without a boyfriend/girlfriend for 3 to 5 years now. WHICH IS NEVER A BAD THING, if you are in your 20s like I am. It doesn't mean nothing kung wala kang relasyon dahil ilang taon pa lang naman ang nakakalipas ok! NAGPAPADALA KA LANG SA USO AND YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A REASON TO BE DEPRESS. Lalo na if you are a girl. You know why? CAUSE MEN ARE ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT SEX 24/7! It doesn't mean that its bad, its actually an advantage, especially for you girls. Dahil kahit gaano ka pa ka panget, kahit beastly pa yang itsura mo you'll end up with a guy na gustong gumawa ng favor para sayo at eventually maging ka relasyon mo. Of course you wont end up with Brad Pitt, or any other celebrity hunk. AND It'll probably a your first BF/GF would be the D' Bag of the greatest kind, but DEFINITELY you'll end up with someone and you will have what we call a thing called relationship. SO STOP THIS NBSB foolishness it doesnt exist and I think kahit gaano pa ka gulo ang buhay ngayon hind naman talaga yan mag eexist, nauso lang yan sa mga social media, o pinauso lang yan nang kung sinong JEJE.  Which brings me to my next point...
2. GUY BEST FRIEND - This doesn't exist too. I remember when I was in highschool, documented, recorded ito sa parents ko because if I am really confused and I cant figure out this part of my life, ang parents ko palagi ang tanungan ko dyan. For me noon pa yan o ngayon pag dating sa relationship hindi naman talaga nag babago yan drastically. Of course may mga exemptions pero generally the process is the same. And kapag wala ka natalgang maisip na paraan at punong puno ka ng hormones any advise will do a lot.ANYWAY, one thing na hiningi kong opinion from my pops is this guy best friend thing that I want to get away and confess to a great lady of my feelings for her. There is one thing that he did say to me. "KATARANTADUHAN TALAGA YANG BEST FRIEND BEST FRIEND NA YAN" during this time I was a bit offended at pinag labana ko talaga na noong una wala akong nararamdaman and purely platonic lang ang relationship namin. Pero NOW I realized totoo to without a doubt. Na ang opposite sex hindi pwedeng maging mag best friend. This is as impossible as Charice being a lady again (well hindi naman talaga ata sya naging lady sa loob hehe.. ang tingin ko lang na maging possible sa kanya is maging kamukha say ni ate guy pag tagal, naparang lately nahahawig na nga hehe..). Going back, =D kapag naging mag bestfriend ang babae at lalake meron nakaagad na may gusto o may attraction na kaagad. Most likely its the guy, but it doesnt happened overtime, once a girl and or a guy commit to this platonic best friend thingy, it is already a revelation/confirmation that one of you is attracted to the other. And mostly its the guy, dahil katulad nga ng sabi ko on my first entry, (all together now!) MEN ARE ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT SEX 24/7! Kaylangan ko pa bang iexplain to? And syempre yung mga machismo guys na makakabasa nito sasabihin; "lul, kaw lang yan dadamay mo pa kami" MAG DDENY PA BA? Itaga nyo sa bato o kahit saan man gusto nyong itaga kung may pang taga man kayo (ang tanong bakit), TOTOO itong sinasabi ko hindi 99.9% kung hindi 100%. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, hindi ko rin naman kayo binabawalan na gawin ito. The only thing that you don't want to do is to expect that one day when you are ready to admit, na ibabalik nya rin sayo ay ganun, at magiging kayo. Dahil ladies doesn't have our HORMONES or our MENTALITY.Which brings me to my third topic -
   
   
3. LESBIAN BY DEFAULT - I think girls has a little tiny bitty lesbian in them. Well I might be wrong because I am not a girl nor want to be one. But since they don't have any Testosterone on their body, they intend to go with their emotions. If you'll think about ang mga ladies lang ang nagsasabi o nakakapag usap about their body parts and kahit parehas pa sila ng gender. May nakita ka na ba na two heterosexual guys na ang conversation ay ganito.GUYLALOO 1: Uy pare ang ganda ng pwet mo ah, sana ganyan din ang akinGUYLALOO 2: Thanks, sa brief ko kasi yan, ganitong brand kasi bilin mo oh, tignan mo yung tatak. saka bilog na bilog diba?
   
   Pag ganyan makipag usap ang boyfriend mo sa kumpare nya, kabahan ka na...
   
   I'm saying this to let every guys know that it is important to touch on their emotional side of things, not saying na gayahin nyo makipagusap ang mga babae nilang best friend, but just to have it at the back of your mind that their emotion is almost half of what they are. And kapag na acknowledge mo yun you'll be in good terms with them, and probably makuha mo rin somehow ang gusto mo. (which is?? basahin mo nalang sa taas please.. thanks). Hey I am not perfect and minsan nawawaglit din sa isip ko ito pero MOST of the time, ito muna ang kinoconsider ko, not by asking her, but just simply doing it.
   
   Parang taong walang sakit na nag pa check up, alam mo naman na wala syang sakit, at pwede mo rin namang sabihin sa kanya na wala kang sakit ano pang gusto mong gawin ko?? Pero kung tingin ko ang tamang gawin is tumayo sa upuan tapatan ng stethoscope sa likod sa dibdib pahingahin ng malalim at normal ng ilang ulit, lagyan ng thermometer, pangagahin at sabihin na hey, so after kitang i-check up, I think you'll be alright wala namang inpeksyon mejo may plema lang pero wala ka nang lagnat at inom ka lang ng maraming tubig gagaling ka din.  Pero don't worry kung may nararamdaman kang iba balik ka lang dito. Nandito lang naman ako eh. Cheesy example pero kahit alam mo na na wala namang talagang problema at least nag effort ka pa din.
   
   
4. DONT LOVE YOUNG - Im not saying wag kang makipag relasyon kung teenager ka palang, in fact you can go from one relationship to the other buwan buwan kung gusto mo. Pero don't be a fool and think that he/she will be the guy that you'll grow old with. NO. Hindi yun nangyayare. Syempre may mga exemptions pero most of the time hindi. You know why? Dahil sa pera at sa opportunities. Remember I talked about 8 year changes? Na bawat 8 years ng buhay mo may nakukuha ka at nawawala sayo na will make you more complete and totally different than what you are 8 years ago? (go sa archive at hanapin mo yung entry ko na yun GORA!)Hindi ka ba nagtataka na halos lahat ng nagkaka syota ng mga 16 pataas pag dating ng mga 24 o 25 years old (minsan mas maaga pa), nag bbreak? At yung mga klaseng pagbbreak nila is either nanlalamig na o parang hindi mo na sya maintindihan o hindi ka na nya masakyan? (figuratively =D) Dahil what you have when you were 16 ay ibang iba sa meron ka kapag tumuntong ka na ng early 20s mo. Either you will meet more amazing people na hindi mo man lang maiisip na na eexist pala. At places na napuntahan mo sigurado hindi katulad nung pinupuntahan mo nung 16 ka pa. PERO MORE IMPORTANTLY mas marami ka nang PERA. Dahil sigurado kung normal kang tao, you are earning a monthly salary na ng panahon na ito alam mo narin ang value ng pera and less ka nang nanghihingi ng pera sa parents mo, most of the time ikaw pa nga minsan ang nagpprovide. AT KAPAG MAY PERA KA NA, it changes everything. LALO na ang PAGKATAO MO. OO pwede ka paring maging mabait, mapagmahal o sweet. Pero kapag may pera na mas marami ka nang pwedeng gawin at marerealize mo ngayon na ito pala ang gusto kong gawin, at ito pala ang gusto kong puntahan. So more likely intentional or unintentional mas gugustohin mo na rin ng ibang lalake o babae. Yung tipong mas complete din at mas katulad mo. At yan ang palaging nangyayare.So if you are a teenager, don't take relationships super seriously. Marami ka pang priorities in life. Just enjoy what you have and if you are not having fun with it then politely look for another. Kapag mas kumpleto ka ng tao dun ka nalang mag drama at intindihin itong part ng buhay mo. You will need the experience, pero not the drama dahil your too young now.
   
   
5. FIRST LOVE - Lagi nalang cliche na ang First RELATIONSHIP ANG FIRST LOVE mo, at ang pinaka memorable in so many ways. Para sa akin hindi 100 percent sure to, actually hindi pa nga 50%. Because your first love can come at the age of 42. My pop will always say, malalaman mong first love mo yun dahil hindi sa una mo syang ka relasyon, pero dahil super sakit ng heartbreak nyo or super memorable ng experience mo. AND MOST OF THE TIME YOU'LL MALALAMAN MONG FIRST LOVE MO YUN KAPAG TAPOS NA.PROVEN na itong theory na ito, and I promise you malalaman mo ang kaibahan ng first love. Malaking factor padin dito yung status mo sa buhay. The more you age mas nagiging kumpleto ka, and you'll find out na yung mga na una mong relasyon lalo na yung pinaka una ay parang hindi naman talaga nag mmatter.AGAIN YOUR FIRST RELATIONSHIP ISN'T YOUR FIRST LOVE.